Thu, Dec 15, 2011 at 2:34 AM
"Show Your Ass"
I have written about Ms. Minaj (NM) several times. For this reason I will not go into too much detail about my enthusiasm and appreciation for her debut album Pink Friday. You can rather check out the following posts to understand how much fuel that CD provided me: Both inspirational – after a listen these women leave me feeling like I can take on the world – AND WIN and Girl Power. Pink Friday (for me), is up there with the timeless and most inspiring album The Miseducation of Lauryn Hill (no lie, up there for real). I do have some things however that I feel compelled to express regarding her most recent singles/ features.
I played out Pink Friday since purchasing it back in November 2011. Against his will, Mr. Baby could probably recite songs like, I’m The Best, Fly, and Blazin’ because I was bumpin ‘em that much! Not only that but I had all my friends go get the album too! Anticipating the release of her second album (so the girl power movement could continue), I was disheartened when she was featured on Big Sean’s A** (Ass). I found myself shaking my damn head (smdh: as social media’ers put it)! It was one of those things where it felt like, we (“I AM WE”) had just gone 2,640 feet forward with Pink Friday – a CD where a female rapper is not hypersexual and suggestive but lyrical content is rather aggressive, compelling, selfless, and reflective – and then got smacked in the face with an ass cheek back 5,280 feet with her verse and presentation in the A** video (progress=half a mile, decline=one mile). Does anyone feel me? Am I alone on this one?
I was not mad, but sad and a little heartbroken. I do not enjoy seeing a woman I admire [blatantly] objectified and portrayed in a role usually cast by a “video vixen.” I like seeing and hearing her strong, dominating shit, empowered, and empowering others! I did not get that from A**. And have not really been able to put my ears to NM since. Not turning my back on her, because I understand double standards, freedom of expression, having fun, and the cognitive dissonance we woman experience when doing our business but I need her to come back with it again.
I am laughing as I write this because it reminds me of when I found out my big brother was smoking weed! It broke my little heart to discover that my role model and best friend was “doing” drugs. I felt like that MTV/True Life catchphrase ‘you think you know, but you have no idea.’ It was as if I knew my brother one minute and the next he became a stranger. How could he “do such a thing” to himself and to me – his fan, supporter, and little sis?! And that is exactly (lol) how I was feeling about NM – like she turned on me (lol).
NM does not have to have any allegiance to me personally, but as with any person who is in a position of leadership, influence, and role model-ship aka power (which is all of us, FYI) – we have to do better. We have to be conscious and mindful in our decision making and ask ourselves: who is watching, who is listening, what might I be teaching them or showing them, and how might I be guiding them/ they interpret my actions? It is that serious. Because we (yes we: you, me, my big brother, Nicki Minaj, etc.) are not only standing on the shoulders of our ancestors (inheritors of great responsibility) but are leading the way for the future as well (social stewards). Additionally, someone (the children and the youth) is watching!
While I have had this on my mind for some time I was finally able to transcribe my thoughts after viewing Y U Mad, Birdman’s newest single that features both NM and Lil Wayne. Honestly, I digs that NM so much more!