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Wed, Dec 29, 2010 at 3:18 PM

Off Topic

By: OnlyNicki

Ok this is off the topic of our girl Nicki. I just have a random thought that I would like to throw out there to my PF family.

Why is it that in relationships a man feels he can get away with almost anything? I see this so much > Men take advantage of a girl with low self esteem and get in her home that she has worked hard to establish and wreck it. Mind you she thinks no one will love her because of her own low self worth. He takes her money and sits on her couch (smoking and drinking), and having his boys over while she goes off to work. He eats her food, she buys him clothes. He breaks her off and then takes her car and stays out til the sun beats him home. She might as well be alone. Because she feels false love and even though she knows the realtionship is toxic, she is now afraid to be alone again. He gets arrested, she bails him out. Now money is tight and they fight all the time until he leaves her to go live with another lowself esteem girl...and the cycle continues.

Another thing that blows my mind -
A guy with kids finds a new girlfriend and the girlfriend claims she loves him so much but hates his kid(s). How can you love a man and not accept his child? The new woman makes it so hard for the baby's mom and she is struggling trying to care for her kid(s) alone. The new girlfriend can't even handle the fact that her boyfriend and the kid(s) mom have to communicate for the sake of the kid(s). The new girlfriend gets crazy and starts bringing drama to babymom's way. Although I can not personally relate...It drives me crazy to see this happening. Because all the while, it is the children who suffer. Now daddy doesn't come around anymore because new girl is too insecure. Shame! Every girl that I have met that has a "babydaddy" tells me that she still sleeps with him whenever she wants...girlfriend or no girlfriend. I am sure there are stories where the case is different... but this is what I have seen. Your thoughts?

  1. Candi Queen avatar

    On Sat, Jan 1, 2011 at 8:00 PM, Candi Queen said:

    @OnlyNicki Lol I know right...I cant take credit for that statement tho...thats something I remembered my Pastor said when she was preaching one Sunday.

  2. OnlyNicki avatar

    On Thu, Dec 30, 2010 at 4:47 PM, OnlyNicki said:

    @Candi Queen - When you said "Love yourself you are special because you made it out of all the sperm that was swimming to get to ur mothers egg. Anybody could of made it but you did"
    I had to giggle because I thought I was the only one who thought that before.
    Thanks 4 your comment, what you say is very true.

  3. Candi Queen avatar

    On Thu, Dec 30, 2010 at 2:36 PM, Candi Queen said:

    I agree with everything you said and its so sad that things like this is happening. One thing people have to always remember is that before you can love anybody else you have to love yourself first. And if you cant have trust in a relationship then theres no relationship at all.

    I hope people realize that they are so special and important and they don't need some1 to tell them they are loved they should be able to tell themselves everyday.

    Love yourself you are special because you made it out of all the sperm that was swimming to get to ur mothers egg. Anybody could of made it but you did..so your special...don't sell yourself short

  4. OnlyNicki avatar

    On Thu, Dec 30, 2010 at 7:42 AM, OnlyNicki said:

    Yes Barb I totally agree with your comment. It just saddens me that people get with other people just to take advantage of them while they are weak. Sad situation...and to any barbz out there that go through this, please try and break the cycle. This can't be good for our little bambinos to watch and immulate in their future relationships. I know sometimes things are easier said than done, but work for what makes you truly happy. Why would you want to continue living a sad and miserable life? Stand up and take back the power that he or she has over you. I have been in bad relaionships and now that I am in a good one, I can see so clearly how bad my past relationships had been and how I wasted so much time waiting for a man to change for me. #Motivation!

  5. Harajuku_Barbie80 avatar

    On Wed, Dec 29, 2010 at 4:52 PM, Harajuku_Barbie80 said:

    Re: 1st paragraph ==> Okay I have been in this kind of situation before. You have to learn to love youself before you can learn to love anybody else. A man or woman will only get away with what YOU allow them too. You have to find the courage to stand up for yourself because trust me there is no one else that will. You have to set boundaries with people and stick to them. Otherwise people will walk all over you. In the end YOU are all you have. Start putting yourself FIRST and I promise things will change.
    There are alot of mean people in this world that feed off of people they can manipulate and control. Thats just what they do. I don't know why ..but they do. So I would surround yourself with POSITIVE people that uplift you not tear you down xoxox

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